Couples Therapy

Couples therapy isn’t just about learning to communicate better. It’s about seeing and understanding one another in a deeper, more nuanced way. Often, we approach relationships through the lens of our own experiences and beliefs, assuming our partner shares our way of seeing the world. This can lead to misunderstanding and conflict, particularly when our personalities express different needs, fears, and motivations. A more effective approach starts with understanding how each person’s unique personality style influences the relationship dynamic, shaping not only conflicts but also the ways we can work together as a team.

My approach to couples therapy is rooted in understanding the core personality styles that each person brings to the relationship. Rather than focusing on “fixing” one partner, which is a common misconception, we examine how each personality style both supports and challenges the partnership. When we recognise that personality is shaped by core needs, coping mechanisms, and even shadow sides—those aspects of ourselves we may try to deny or downplay— we can move beyond surface-level advice and start creating real, sustainable change.

In our sessions, we focus on practical and relational exercises that help each partner better understand themselves and each other. Through this work, you learn to appreciate each other’s differences, creating space for a relationship that honours both personalities. This process doesn’t involve sweeping changes or expecting anyone to become someone they’re not; instead, we look at how to work with the personalities you both bring to the table. This approach strengthens the relationship by building empathy, resilience, and a shared understanding of the unique “engine” each person drives within the relationship.

If you’re interested in this approach to couples therapy, or would like to learn more, please get in touch to arrange a consultation or discuss how this journey might look for you as a couple.